Life Hacks • Part 4

Conflict Help

We live in a broken world with broken people who, at times, do some pretty hurtful things to us. The reality is you will always experience conflict in life, but it’s how you deal with conflict that defines your experience in life. What can we learn from Solomon on how to deal with conflict in our lives? 

Large Group

1. Where do you find your greatest area of conflict—relationships, job, school, friends?

2. Read Proverbs 15:28. We often react to our feelings and then conflict begins. Think of a time you wish you had thought much more carefully before speaking and causing a situation to escalate.  What was the result of speaking before thinking carefully?

3. Proverbs 18:2 says, “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.” Trying to understand through listening before expressing your own feelings can help resolve conflict. When has listening before speaking helped you resolve a conflict? 

4. Read Proverbs 12:15. What does Solomon say about the idea that the other party is completely responsible for conflict?  

5. Relationships are always more important that being right. Do you struggle with this? Is there strife in a relationship right now because you know you are right and will defend yourself “to the death”?

6. Proverbs 13:10 is very clear on what is causing conflict in our relationships. Can you see the role pride is playing in the conflict you are experiencing? What are some of the practical steps you can take to acknowledge how anger is fueled by pride?

7. What is the wisest decision you can make when you are in a conflict? 

8. Read Proverbs 17:9. Describe the example Pastor James used for the word “cover.” He also spoke about the term, “repeat the matter” as a manner of revenge (Do to them like they did to you). If you really want a meaningful relationship with someone, what is the best (reasonable) reaction when they offend you?

Small Group

1. You’re struggling in a certain relationship. You argue. You know you’re right. How do you maintain your integrity and the relationship?

2. Who in your life is a good listener? How do they respond to you that makes you feel heard and understood? 

 3. Do you see the part you play in the conflict you’re experiencing right now? 

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