Under the Influence • Part 1

Every family faces obstacles that will push them and stretch them. If you are a parent, know someone who is a parent or had a parent, then you will agree that parenting can be a struggle.  What we find, throughout the Bible, is that there are no perfect parents or easy formulas, but God does give us some clear instruction and wisdom on how to parent well and how to deal with family issues.

  1. During your childhood, what did your parents do that you said you would never do when you had kids? If you’re a parent now, did it work out the way you thought it would?
  2. As a parent, how have you seen that you are the primary influencer in your children’s lives?  Do you worry about being the “perfect” parent?  What does the “perfect” parent look like to you?
  3. Read Ephesians 6:1-4. How do these verses show God’s plan for the family and the responsibility He gave to parents to influence their children?
  4. How are you living out Ephesians 6:2-3 in your life right now? What are the ways you are teaching your children how to obey and honor you through your own example?
  5. Read Ephesians 6:4. How can you shift from controlling to connecting so you don’t lose out on influencing your children as they get older?
  6. Communicate who you value, not just what you value. What are some of the practical ways you can communicate to your children that you value them, and not just their obedience?
  7. Lecture less to listen more. Would others describe you as a good listener? How can you take the time needed with your children in order to have quality time connecting?
  8. Constantly reengage with love. How does Ephesians 5:1-2 challenge you as a parent? How can the group pray for you as you continue to fight to influence your children for Christ?