Dealing With It • Part 4

Sometimes when we are trying to deal with a relationship and trying to do all the right things and say the right things, the other person seems to like being in conflict. So what do I do if I continually try to deal with IT, but nothing happens? IT just keeps happening and growing and getting uglier. How do you start dealing with it at that point?

Large Group

  1. What was your biggest takeaway from this past week’s sermon? Why?
  2. As a Christian, what relationship have you been avoiding in an effort not to deal with the consequences of dealing with IT?
  3. What do you do when you’re trying to deal with IT, but you stay stuck in IT? What should you do when dealing with a relationship where the other person thrives in making the situation worse? 
  4. Read Romans 12:18. How can you have peace about a relationship without having peace in a relationship?
  5. There’s a difference between burden and load. What are some of the ways you would distinguish between helping others with their “excess burdens” and carrying someone’s load for them? How can you be sensitive to God and see opportunities to help others with their burdens?
  6. Read Galatians 6:1-5. Describe a time where instead of helping someone with their burden, you carried their load for them. Were there consequences for taking on more than you should have? 
  7. You’ll never know peace when you carry their piece of the load. Have you ever tried to make a miserable person happy? What was the result? Helping to restore and not rescue can be pretty tricky. Based on the sermon, what do you see is the difference between rescuing someone and helping to restore them?
  8. How do you give insight without appearing “preachy” or “holier than thou”?

Small Group 

  1. Let’s ask again: How can you have peace without carrying their piece of the load? Describe a situation where (a) you finally confronted a person with their problem, or (b) you tried to rescue but the person sank deeper into their problem. In each situation, describe how you felt afterward.
  2. Describe watching a loved one go down an obviously wrong path – what were you thinking and feeling? If the situation has changed, what was the final outcome?

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